How to choose the perfect first dance song!
Deciding your first dance song can be tricky! Do you choose upbeat or laid back? Classic or Modern? Dj or Live music? Ron Sanders Music is here to share his top tips on how to choose the perfect first dance song to compliment you and your partner as a newly wed couple!
As a wedding singer, one of the most common questions I am asked is what first dance song to choose; after all, the first time you dance as a married couple is a beautiful moment and one which you should cherish for the rest of your life. Of course I can’t give a definitive answer, there is no ‘one right song’, and arguably there are no wrong songs either!
The reality is that choosing a first dance song is a deeply personal decision which takes careful thought, but there are some key areas that you should consider. Here are my top 5 tips for choosing the perfect first dance song.
Upbeat or Laid Back?
I always think of this as one of the easier questions to answer. Close your eyes and visualise your first dance. Is it a slow and intimate affair with your one-and-only love or are you banging out a killer choreographed routine with your partner in crime?
Do you want to be joined by lots of other slow dancing couples or are you expecting your friends to invade the dance floor and get the party started? This will give you the perfect starting point in your decision.
Classic or Modern?
Next up, consider the era of music you want to choose from. Modern songs will likely be recognised by many of your guests but you also run the risk of using the same first dance song as many other weddings, leaving your guests uninspired.
Older songs may not be so recognisable to some of your (particularly younger) guests but might provide a more personal choice and therefore a more memorable experience. Consider your theme here too. For example, if you choose a vintage themed wedding, then you might like to choose an older song.
Personal or Popular?
This leads nicely into the next consideration. Often I hear couples torn between choosing something that means a lot to them, but that is not well known or a more popular song that has less personal meaning to them. My advice would be to follow your heart. If it’s special to you, it will create the magic you are looking for–and isn’t that’s what it’s all about?
Obvious or Unusual Lyrics?
By this I mean songs which are explicitly clear in their meaning or ones which are more ambiguous. One thing I’ve learned is that during the first dance people are a lot more focused on the happiness of the couple than the lyrics of the song. Believe me when I say that no one else will be scrutinising the words of the song, instead they will be taking in the whole atmosphere of your day and the connection between the newly married couple.
So if you have a favourite song, don’t discount it because it mentions a break up. This is one time not to get too hung up on the details, but instead put on your headphones and close your eyes–does it create the magic you are after? That’s all that matters.
DJ or Live?
The answer to this question will depend heavily on the song you choose. If you are very attached to the arrangement and vocals of your song exactly as it is then I would advise using a DJ. But if you prefer the atmosphere of live music and are willing to allow your wedding musician/musicians to put their stamp on it then live is definitely the way to go.
If you’re not sure, ask! Any wedding musician worth their salt should be able to audition their version for you so that you can make an informed decision. After all, it’s a privilege to be picked to play for you–so it’s the least we can do.
About Ron Sanders Music:
Ron Sanders is one of the leading singers in the North West. Providing high quality entertainment for Weddings, from acoustic solo and live looping ranging from pop through to folk and all in between!
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